ENH: fix support for Python limited API / stable ABI wheels #1934

Job	Run time
cygwin (3.9)	12m 39s
pyston (3.8)	2m 53s
msvc (3.11)	4m 42s
homebrew (3.8)	5m 3s
homebrew (3.11)	11m 6s
test (ubuntu, 3.7)	2m 12s
test (ubuntu, 3.11)	2m 43s
test (macos, 3.7)	4m 10s
test (macos, 3.11)	3m 53s
test (windows, 3.7)	7m 46s
test (windows, 3.11)	5m 58s
test (ubuntu, pypy-3.9)	5m 39s
test (ubuntu, 3.8)	2m 30s
test (ubuntu, 3.9)	2m 34s
test (ubuntu, 3.10)	2m 53s
test (ubuntu, 3.12-dev)	4m 7s
test (ubuntu, 3.11, ~=0.63.3)	2m 21s
test (ubuntu, 3.11, ~=0.64.0)	3m 10s
test (ubuntu, 3.11, ~=1.0.0)	2m 46s
test (ubuntu, 3.11, ~=1.1.0)	2m 37s
test (ubuntu, 3.11, @git+https://github.com/mesonbuild/meson.git)	2m 55s
test (windows, 3.11, @git+https://github.com/mesonbuild/meson.git)	7m 0s
mypy	11s
	1h 41m 48s

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