feat!: streamline devDeps into 2 buckets, provide defaults

[mshanemc]

requires forcedotcom/eslint-config-salesforce-typescript#191. Once that merges and releases, use the new version in here instead of the beta.

devScripts will remove most devDeps and provide them to consumers, with support for overrides via sf-dev-rc.

most eslint functionality is provided by forcedotcom/eslint-config-salesforce-typescript#191

BREAKING CHANGES: you might need certain versions of dependencies and this would break you until you set the overrides.

also, provide some deeper docs for .sf-dev-rc

@W-14373783@

QA: use the beta tag release.

Proof of correctness salesforcecli/plugin-limits#674

[mdonnalley]

@mshanemc since we're doing a major version bump here, do you want to also drop swc?

[mdonnalley]

QA notes:

yarn add @salesforce/[email protected] --dev in plugin-telemetry
🟢 removed dev-scripts managed devDeps
🟢 yarn compile passes
🟢 yarn lint passes
🟢 yarn test passes
🟢 eslint in devDepOverrides in .sfdevrc prevents eslint from being removed
🟢 removing devDepOverrides in .sfdevrc allows dev-scripts to remove eslint dep